I was having a conversation this week about feeling stuck.
You know that feeling when you’ve done shed loads of work, asked the questions, read the books, reflected endlessly and yet somehow you still find yourself following the same patterns?
Still in survival mode, waiting for the shift and wondering when life will start to feel lighter.
I was sharing how frustrated I’ve been feeling lately and frankly, how tired I’ve been. I have noticed how I tend to slip into that question of,
What is wrong with me?
Why haven’t I shifted this yet?
Why do I still feel held back by the same fears, the same habits, the same emotional loops?
Why does thriving sometimes feel like something happening for everyone else?
It was one of those deeper conversations as the person I was speaking with supports me with breathwork and we share a similar spiritual perspective. And she said something so simple it just stopped me,
‘Maybe it’s just not ready yet.’
Something about that just landed differently for some reason.
Because intellectually, of course, I know healing isn’t linear. Growth doesn’t happen on demand. Transformation won’t come into existence by sheer force of will.
But emotionally it’s easy to believe that if something hasn’t shifted, it must be because I’m failing.
That I should be better by now, further on by now or even healed by now.
But I’m learning that the lesson is not in forcing the breakthrough, but in trusting the timing. What if the roots are growing underground, unseen, before anything blooms?
There is something deeply humbling about surrender.
Not giving up.
Not becoming passive.
But loosening the grip.
Releasing the timeline.
Trusting that what is meant for you is still finding its way and believing that becoming takes the time it takes.
I am learning slowly that survival mode is not a personal failure.
Sometimes it is protection.
Sometimes it is grief.
Sometimes it is exhaustion.
Sometimes it is simply a chapter, not the whole story.
As we talked, I reflected that this is not only part of my story in this life intergenerationally but also part of my story in previous lives too, from what I understand from my Akashic records. She emphasised that I’m here to break those cycles. No pressure then…!
Things have perhaps not shifted because something is still preparing, aligning, becoming ready.
And maybe the work is not to force it but to trust it, to trust myself, the process and the divine timing of my own life.
I don’t have this mastered. Some days I am still madly frustrated. But I’m trying to make peace with the possibility that this is not a delay. It is part of the becoming.
And perhaps that changes everything.
Maybe nothing is wrong with you.
Maybe it’s just not ready yet.